The Trouble With Gold

Have you ever been in a lecture hall and had that "one" student quickly writing every word that comes spewing from the professors' lips?  The same student has that look of disappointment scribbled across their face if they look to you for help with the last statement, but you were too distracted by their OCDness to give any thought to the current lecture?  Well, that student was me - is me.  I am Gold. I embody the whole personality.

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Golds calculate everything... EVERYTHING.  We are task oriented and focus on goals and the details that will get us their.  I have always had a goal, always.  I have checklists, and my checklists have their own checklists.  I want expectations to be clearly communicated and I need structure.  I need to be useful art my job.  I have a hard time not planning every single aspect of my day.  Just today, I was reading a novel and strategically placed a "goal bookmark" at the place I was striving to be at before I had to leave the adventure to return to my tasks for the day.  It is really that bad.  I am also a pusher.  I am highly self-motivated, so I push myself, a lot.

So, what's the trouble with Gold? For starters, I measure myself daily in every aspect - physically, socially, emotionally, professionally, and the list goes on and on.  While setting goals for myself is great, I am easily depressed if I do not exceed those goals with flying colors.  I also tend to set expectations for others.  I set their expectations FOR THEM.  In turn, that means I am pushing them to meet exceed them.  This type of relationship with myself and others is not exactly "healthy."  It is simply not fair to force your lifestyle onto someone and expect them to enjoy it.  I desperately want others to share my high standards, even know I know they despise me for it.

"Hailey, why don't you just stop caring - just stop being Gold?"

I can't.  This is MY personality, even with the flaws, it makes me who I am.

I can relax.  I have been intentionally trying to "just be" and "waste time" in order to "let it go."  Do I struggle with wanting to be productive 24/7?  Sure, but the bright side is that I'm working on it.  I'm working on letting friends and family be who they are and communicate based on their needs and not my own.  If I want to motivate someone, I'm learning to do it on their terms.

We all have unique strengths, talents, abilities, and gifts to share - I just want to organize them alphabetically! (Ha.)  Just kidding, go share your uniqueness with the world - they're all waiting.

I'll leave you with this quote from Lorenzo Snow:

"Do not expect to become perfect at once.  If you do, you will be disappointed.  Be better today than you were yesterday, and be better tomorrow than you were today."

Until Next Time,
-H.